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Wakes in Swindon
As a society, we dislike talking about death. Even more so with those close to us. Death of a loved one is ranked as one of life’s most stressful events as individuals are forced to deal with not only their grief but, endless decisions.
Therefore, we believe, in such circumstances, knowledge is power, and preparation is key. It will not remove the pain of loss, but, may help with a few of those difficult choices.
Below we have put together a few things to consider when arranging the wake of a loved one;
1/ Have that conversation
Many of us baulk at the idea of discussing death. However, the discomfort we may experience talking through a loved one’s options will be outweighed by our ability to uphold their wishes and swiftly make decisions in the time of difficulty.
2/ Funeral Director
The Funeral Director is central to all decisions when arranging a wake. Therefore, it is essential that you are not only comfortable but, trusting in your somewhat brief relationship. You will be asked numerous questions at an extremely vulnerable time. Take someone with you, take your time and if you are not sure, ask for help. Remember Funeral Directors are professionally trained and accustomed to customers vulnerability and questions.
2/ The order of service
The order of service serves as a guide to the funeral service and is vital in preparations. It need not be sombre, but respectful. Represent the deceased, how you believe, they would like to be remembered. Bearing in mind that the service will be read by your loved one’s friends and family and will serve as a keepsake.
It is a collective job and may cause a clash of opinion as emotions run high. So, take your time and try where possible to compromise.
Be clear with guests if you wish for floral donations or alternative charity contributions. Floral decorations can lift the room on a difficult day and hold significant meaning to those present. Depending on the circumstances and personality of the person passed you may deem the day as one of celebration and wish to convey the message through floral tributes. Seek advice on seasonal flowers and alternatives if you are unable to meet your exacting requirements.
Blossom Lane Event Florists understand what it's like to lose a loved one. Using their knowledge and experience they know the unique power that flowers have to help express your emotions, condolences and affections. Their range of floral tributes are quality blooms and styles from casket sprays, flower baskets, crosses, letters, hearts, cushions to posies and wreaths that echo bespoke and personalised options. Their discrete and professional service provides their clients with some comfort in this time of sorrow.
Music can strike the tone and atmosphere of any occasion and applies no less to a funeral. It can evoke a person’s personality and provide an insight into the life that they have lived. We have all been sobbing at a funeral after a eulogy to be then faced with an uplifting song choice on our departure changing our tears into a smile. Music is personal, take your time to make the right decision for your loved one.
After such an occasion, simple and comforting food is required. The kettle will consistently be on the boil, dependent on the number of your guests it may be prudent to consider an urn. Many supermarkets provide pre-prepared sandwiches and buffet options. If you prefer to prepare your own, accept help bring close family and friends on board to assist. If additional guests offer to help, ask them to bake. A cake is always welcome, even more so at a wake.
Many venues in Swindon offer wake packages to take away the stress of planning. Here's a few we recommend:
Wrag Barn - Just a 10 minute drive from Kingsdown Crematorium Swindon with ample free parking, Wrag Barn offer a variety of packages from lunch to a finger buffet for your gathering. Whether you want to share memories with a display of photographs, or simply gather round a table and reminisce over a drink, their experienced staff will be on hand to make it a little easier. Please call 01793 861327 or email for more details.
Blunsdon House - Whether you choose a wake steeped in custom or simply a casual get-together, Blunsdon House understand it is a time to bring extended families together to say a perfect goodbye to a loved one and they’re here to help you organise this. From the type of food you want to serve, to live music or entertainment, they can discuss how much you want to spend and help to advise on approximate costs, remaining transparent and sensitive throughout. Please call 01793 720617 or email for more details.
Swindon Marriott Hotel - There is a variety of event spaces to choose from at Swindon Marriott Hotel, and they can provide all the equipment and catering you need to take any stress away from your planning. Please call 01793 512121 further details.
Marsh Farm Hotel - The team at Marsh Farm Hotel have many years experience in sympathetically attending to your needs at this difficult time. They offer a selection of menus and refreshments from which to choose, including finger buffets and traditional afternoon tea and can offer private dining facilities for up to 120 guests. Please call 01793 842800 or email for more details.
The Barista Cricklade - Just a 5 minute walk from North Medow and the beautiful snakeshead fritilery where the river Thames flows by is the perfect destination for family members to be able to gather and share memories whilst enjoying freshly prepared food platters. The Barista can offer catering within their cafe or outside of their venue! The team will be incredibably sympathetic and attentive to every guests needs. Please call 01793 750301 or email for more details.
By Emma Smith